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Waaaay back in the day, prior to my transition period, I didn’t have any romantic choices in my life. I didn’t know how to create new ones for myself, and they sure as hell weren’t coming to me “naturally” or through my social circles. Prior to turning 30, I really had no clue what life would be like if I had a constant variety of romantic adventures with all kinds of girls.
It was at that point in my life when I went through what I call “ my transition period,“, and I finally was able to get all the romance that I could ever imagine. I had finally had choices in my romance life. I’ll even go so far as to say that every man deserves to have this in his own life, if he is willing to put in the time, effort, and energy that is required to make it happen for himself. There are many paths that lead to this kind of happiness, but the only one that worked for me was by taking an ABCs of Attraction bootcamp. Yeah, not the most glorious thing in the world, but that was what I needed, and I used the lessons I learned to get all the things I wanted to get out of life.
Without having experienced all kinds of romantic adventures with all kinds of girls, there is no way in hell I would have been able to find the one girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. She and I are very much in love, and, as of just a few short weeks ago, we are engaged to be married! When I am with her, the outside world literally does not exist to me because it’s just the two of us together on a fun, adventurous, (and of course sexually charged!) life-long romantic adventure. Could I have gotten here without having all the romantic experiences I had before? Maybe. But I really doubt it. The only way a man can really know what kind of girl he wants is to first be with and experience romance with a wide variety of women. Without that, you’re really just left wondering if maybe you should have been with someone else.
So, here are some concrete steps that you can take to make your life better:
1. Figure out what kind of girl you want.
The only way you can do this is to fully romantically connect with lots and lots of girls. Sure, you could “become friends” with a lot of girls, but that will only tell you what kind of female friend you want. To find out what kind of girl you want to spend the rest of your life with, enjoy all kinds of adventures with, and have crazy hot sex with every night, you cannot simply just be friends with lots of girls– you have to fully romantically connect with them. If you’re reading this, I’m assuming it’s because you don’t know how to make this happen. You know how I did it, so you can take it from there…
2. Improve your physique
There are a million ways to get in shape. Figure out a way that works for you, stick with it, and get yourself in shape. I NEVER heard a girl say “oh, I can’t date him because he is really fit. I need to be with someone who doesn’t do anything to improve his physique.” PS- lots of really hot girls do activities that require you to be in shape– CrossFit, indoor rock climbing, swimming, running, volleyball, etc.
3. Start meeting, and going out on dates with, lots of girls.
This basically goes back to #1. Not sure how to get started? Take a bootcamp.
Dear Better Asian Man,
Why does the bootcamp include a lecture before going out to the nightclubs?
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I actually have to refer you to JT Tran, the creator of the ABCs of Attraction bootcamps. He designed the curriculum, so I really have no clue what his reasoning is there. You can contact him at 888-689-GAME.
I can, however, tell you how the lecture portion of the bootcamp helped me out. There are some things that I learned there that would have been pretty impossible to learn in a nightclub. Intuitively, you might think that Read more…
Dear Friends and Fans,
What’s up people? We have just recently migrated to a new provider with all kinds of features and conveniences that make it easier for me to post content for you guys. So, as I go through the process of migrating the essays, podcasts, and interviews from the old server to the new server, you may notice that some of the historical content is not currently visible. But don’t worry! Every single essay, podcast, and interview, has been systematically archived and catalogued, and will be migrated over here in due time. I’ll always be here for you to refer to, and to hopefully use as a springboard for inspiration as you move forward in your own life and find your own adventures.
As a side note, I have to say thanks again to all of you who have been so supportive of this website. The personal experiences and thoughts that many have you have shared with me over the years has been very touching and inspiring and is like the icing on the cake for me. As I have been migrating the old content here to the new server, I’ve been re-reading the essays that I wrote on this website more than 3 years ago. As I read these historical artifacts from my life, I am really amazed at how timeless that stuff is. The struggles, inner conflicts, and challenges that I described are still just as pertinent today as they were three years ago in that every man must face those challenges and overcome them before he can truly call himself a man. I hope that you too will go on to write about how you overcame your own struggles in your own life, share them with others, and inspire them to go on to seek their own solutions.
Dear Better Asian Man,
I’ve listened to your podcast since 2009. It helped me tremendously.
Thank you very much for creating this podcast. I truly appreciate your time, effort and energy in giving back to other Asian American men in an area that is vastly under served.
Thank you for writing in, and for supporting betterasianman.wordpress.com! Running this website has been a journey that I have found to be greatly fulfilling, and I am really happy to hear that I have had a positive influence in your life. As you move forward and discover your own adventures, I invite you to return to share your experiences so that you can be an inspiration to someone else just as I have been to you.